Comments on: Coming out of hiding http://www.pattyk.com/coming-out-of-hiding/ Ideas and solutions for your home based business Sun, 29 Jan 2012 05:43:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Edith http://www.pattyk.com/coming-out-of-hiding/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Edith Sat, 28 Nov 2009 20:15:00 +0000 http://www.pattyk.com/?p=377#comment-37 Ms. Patty: Well done - demonstrating you way with words!!! There is aspect to this lurking - observing, processing, and sometimes not really interested in the chit chat. Many times I lurk because the social world I am in and mine seem to be not connected. It is easier to be quiet then stick out - with the perceived response of "what is she talking about". Yet like you said if it is my turn I run away with much enthusiasm. Keep the words coming! Love to be a lurker in your corner. Ms. Patty: Well done – demonstrating you way with words!!! There is aspect to this lurking – observing, processing, and sometimes not really interested in the chit chat. Many times I lurk because the social world I am in and mine seem to be not connected. It is easier to be quiet then stick out – with the perceived response of “what is she talking about”. Yet like you said if it is my turn I run away with much enthusiasm. Keep the words coming! Love to be a lurker in your corner.

]]> By: Gwen http://www.pattyk.com/coming-out-of-hiding/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Gwen Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:12:34 +0000 http://www.pattyk.com/?p=377#comment-36 Aw, yes, we the Lurkers. We should start our own Club. Lurkers Club? Club Lurkers? Hmm, we'd have to start wearing helmets. Aw, yes, we the Lurkers. We should start our own Club. Lurkers Club? Club Lurkers? Hmm, we’d have to start wearing helmets.

]]> By: Patty http://www.pattyk.com/coming-out-of-hiding/comment-page-1/#comment-35 Patty Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:00:41 +0000 http://www.pattyk.com/?p=377#comment-35 Beth: I totally hear you on the "fine tuning the message" thing. I do that too - spend all my time editing and never actually say anything. This too tricks me into feeling like I'm part of the conversation, seems I *think* about responses, but never voice them. You were holding out on dirty jokes? Damn! Beth: I totally hear you on the “fine tuning the message” thing. I do that too – spend all my time editing and never actually say anything. This too tricks me into feeling like I’m part of the conversation, seems I *think* about responses, but never voice them.

You were holding out on dirty jokes? Damn!

]]> By: Beth http://www.pattyk.com/coming-out-of-hiding/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Beth Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:17:25 +0000 http://www.pattyk.com/?p=377#comment-34 Patty, as I read your blog, I'm surprised at how much alike we are, more than I realized in Saluda. My tendency is also to "lurk" either in person or on the internet and especially in the realm of social media. During live conversations, I am more likely to fine-tune my mental message to the point that I actually miss the chance to pop in with something relevant to the topic before the group moves on the the next topic & I've lost my chance to contribute. I also feel like I need to be "on" to spark up a conversation and to entertain people if someone is feeling down or having a bad day. SUrprisingly, when Barbara asked one night if anyone had any good stories or jokes, I couldn't think of any, at least that were clean enough for mixed company. When I told that to my husband, he almost didn't believe me. "You always have a bunch of jokes up your sleeve." But for some reason, I really just didn't. So what do we do? I guess we need to bare our souls a bit and take a chance that not only will someone not criticize what we say, but they might actually enjoy it! Cool stuff, presumably. Do as I say, not as I do, huh? Have fun and speak up, both online & real-time and you'll find spots where you can be comfortable or at least not uncomfortable. And if you show me yours, I'll show you mine ... soul, that is. lol Patty, as I read your blog, I’m surprised at how much alike we are, more than I realized in Saluda. My tendency is also to “lurk” either in person or on the internet and especially in the realm of social media.

During live conversations, I am more likely to fine-tune my mental message to the point that I actually miss the chance to pop in with something relevant to the topic before the group moves on the the next topic & I’ve lost my chance to contribute.

I also feel like I need to be “on” to spark up a conversation and to entertain people if someone is feeling down or having a bad day. SUrprisingly, when Barbara asked one night if anyone had any good stories or jokes, I couldn’t think of any, at least that were clean enough for mixed company. When I told that to my husband, he almost didn’t believe me. “You always have a bunch of jokes up your sleeve.” But for some reason, I really just didn’t.

So what do we do? I guess we need to bare our souls a bit and take a chance that not only will someone not criticize what we say, but they might actually enjoy it! Cool stuff, presumably.

Do as I say, not as I do, huh? Have fun and speak up, both online & real-time and you’ll find spots where you can be comfortable or at least not uncomfortable. And if you show me yours, I’ll show you mine … soul, that is. lol

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